The Bach Breakdown: Who Pays for What at a Bach Weekend

Money conversations are not exactly the highlight of planning a pre-wedding celebration. But when it comes to bachelor, bachelorette, or joint bach weekends, getting clear on expectations early can save everyone stress, resentment, and last-minute Venmo drama.

So who covers what? The answer depends on the group, the destination, and the vibe. There are a few industry standards and helpful guidelines that make it all smoother.

Here’s how we recommend breaking it down.

The Guests Cover Their Own Travel and Stay

Flights, trains, rental cars, and hotels or Airbnbs are almost always paid by each individual guest. That includes airport Ubers, checked bags, and any upgrades. Unless someone is offering to cover a particular expense as a gift, it’s standard for guests to pay their way.

If you’re planning the weekend, it helps to be upfront about this from the start. Clarity is kind. Share expected costs early so no one feels caught off guard.

The Guest of Honor Typically Does Not Pay for Anything

This is one of the few hard rules. Whether it’s a bride, groom, or both partners celebrating together, the guest of honor should never be reaching for their card. That includes meals, drinks, activities, transportation, and accommodations.

The group usually splits these expenses evenly or assigns certain people to cover specific parts of the weekend. For example, one person might treat them to dinner while others cover their hotel room.

If there are multiple guests of honor (like a joint celebration), clarify early whether you're covering both and how the cost will be split.

Group Activities Are Shared — With One Exception

If there are group experiences planned, like a boat cruise or a private dinner, the cost is typically divided among the attending guests.

The only exception is if someone chooses not to participate. They’re usually not expected to contribute to that portion of the weekend, but they also don’t get a say in how it's planned. Letting people opt in is a great way to keep the vibe relaxed and inclusive.

Welcome Bags and Extras Are Optional but Thoughtful

If you’re the planner or maid of honor and want to create welcome bags, décor moments, or other add-ons, these are considered bonus touches — not required expenses. You can invite others to chip in, but only if it’s optional.

Same goes for custom merch or upgraded reservations. These should be offered, not expected.

Meals and Drinks Can Go Either Way

Some groups prefer to split every tab evenly. Others track who orders what or alternate who pays. Decide what works for your dynamic. If you have guests with different budgets, choose restaurants and bars where splitting feels fair and pressure-free.

Apps like Splitwise or a shared expenses spreadsheet can make this part seamless.

The Planner’s Role Should Be Financially Neutral

If you’re planning the weekend, that’s already your gift. You should not be expected to also foot the bill for extra experiences unless you want to. Make your role clear from the start and communicate costs transparently so everyone knows how to contribute.

Final Thoughts

A little planning goes a long way. Money doesn’t have to be awkward if you lead with clarity, communicate early, and keep things collaborative. When everyone knows what to expect, the weekend becomes less about logistics and more about connection.

Need help building a bach weekend that’s beautifully balanced and stress-free? Let’s plan it together.